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Use Finesse with Your Suspects

Written by Cameron Baird | April 13, 2009

Think of your best sales experiences – whether you were the buyer or the seller. Chances are, it didn't feel pushy or transactional. It felt like a conversation, a genuine exploration of needs and solutions. That, my friend, is the power of finesse, which we focus heavily on at Griffin Hill. So, let's dive into how it can be your sales secret weapon!

Why Finesse Beats Forceful

We all know that stereotypical pushy salesperson, right? Is the one more interested in hitting their number than helping anyone? That approach only works short-term. Even if they squeak out a sale, damaging their reputation can be brutal. Here's the thing about finesse: It's not just more excellent, it's smarter.

Think of a suspect like a locked door. Yelling "BUY FROM ME!" is like banging on that door – likely to make whoever's inside want to stay hidden. Finesse is about finding the right key. Show curiosity, empathy, a touch of subtlety...and suddenly, the door opens willingly. That's when you can start the conversation.


Mastering the "Our Clients" Mindset

One of the most potent finesse techniques is replacing the "You need..." approach with a focus on "Our clients often...". Why does this work so well? 

Let's break it down:

  • Social Proof: We're social creatures who trust what works for others. We hint at successful case studies without being braggy plants a potent seed.
  • Less Confrontational: "You need..." can feel like an accusation, especially early on. The broader approach invites clients to compare their situation to others, which draws them in.
  • Establishes You as the Guide: You're not dictating solutions; you're the one with experience helping businesses like theirs navigate challenges. That's far more attractive to a prospect.
  • Encourages Empathy: Shifting the focus to "Our clients often..." encourages prospects to empathize with other businesses facing similar challenges. It fosters understanding and solidarity, making it easier for prospects to relate to the offered solutions.
  • Sparks Curiosity: By alluding to successful case studies or experiences of other clients, you pique prospects' curiosity. They become intrigued to learn more about how your solutions have benefited others, increasing their receptiveness to your message.
  • Promotes Collaboration: The language of "Our clients often..." implies a collaborative approach to problem-solving. It positions you and the prospect as partners working towards a common goal, fostering a sense of teamwork and cooperation from the outset.
  • Builds Trust: Referencing the experiences of other clients builds trust and credibility in your expertise. It demonstrates that you have a track record of success and know the challenges and solutions relevant to your prospect's industry or situation.
  • Facilitates Personalization: By framing solutions for what has worked for other clients, you lay the groundwork for personalized recommendations tailored to the prospect's specific needs and circumstances.
  • Invites Dialogue: Using the "Our clients often..." approach opens the door to meaningful conversations about the prospect's unique challenges and goals. It encourages them to share their experiences and concerns, facilitating a deeper understanding of their needs.
  • Sets Realistic Expectations: This approach subtly manages expectations by presenting solutions based on real-world examples. It helps prospects understand what outcomes they can realistically expect, reducing the likelihood of disappointment or misunderstandings down the line.

 

Finesse in Action: Real-World Examples

Let's make this tangible. Imagine these two scenarios:

  • Scenario #1: Salesperson Without Finesse: "Your website looks outdated. You need a redesign if you want to attract serious clients." Ouch! Even if true, it's presumptuous and likely to trigger defensiveness.
  • Scenario #2: Salesperson Mastering Finesse: "I notice your site design is a few years old. Many of our clients find refreshing their web presence attracts a whole new level of clientele. Is this something you've considered recently?" See the difference? It highlights a potential issue but positions you as a resource, not a critic.

 

Beyond the Initial Conversation: Finesse for the Long Game

Here's where finesse truly separates the average from the exceptional in sales. It opens doors and helps build lasting, lucrative client relationships. 

How?

  • Trust-Building: Finesse isn't about manipulation. It's about genuine respect for the prospect's needs and timeline. This builds trust, making them far more likely to return to you when they are ready to buy.
  • The Power of Understanding: The more you listen with empathy and use finesse-filled questions, the better you understand your client's goals, even those they might not initially express clearly. This lets you offer solutions that go beyond the apparent surface-level wants.
  • Referral Power: Clients who feel heard and understood become your biggest fans. Finesse helps you turn them into enthusiastic sources of referrals, which is the holy grail of sales!
  • Relationship Nurturing: Finesse extends beyond the initial transaction, focusing on nurturing long-term client relationships. By consistently demonstrating value, reliability, and responsiveness, you solidify your position as a trusted partner and advisor in their business journey.
  • Problem-Solving Excellence: Finesse equips you with the skills to address challenges and obstacles throughout the client relationship. Whether resolving issues, adapting to changing needs, or brainstorming innovative solutions, your finesse-driven approach ensures client satisfaction and loyalty.
  • Continuous Communication: Regularly communicating with clients is essential for fostering trust and keeping your brand top-of-mind. Finesse guides you in navigating ongoing conversations with finesse, ensuring that every interaction adds value and strengthens the client relationship.
  • Anticipating Needs: You can expect your client's evolving needs and preferences through finesse-filled observation and active listening. By staying one step ahead and proactively offering relevant solutions, you demonstrate your commitment to their success and satisfaction.
  • Value Reinforcement: Finesse enables you to consistently reinforce the value proposition of your products or services throughout the client relationship. By highlighting benefits, showcasing results, and soliciting feedback, you reinforce the client's decision to choose your offering and encourage continued loyalty.
  • Partnership Cultivation: Positioning yourself as a strategic partner rather than just a vendor is critical to long-term success in sales. Finesse helps you cultivate a collaborative partnership mindset, where you work with clients to achieve shared goals and overcome challenges.
  • Adaptability and Flexibility: In the ever-changing business landscape, adaptability is crucial for maintaining relevance and value to your clients. Finesse empowers you to adapt your approach, strategies, and offerings to align with shifting client priorities and market dynamics, ensuring continued success in the long run.

 

Additional Tips for Upping Your Finesse Game

Ready to inject some finesse into your own sales approach? Here are a few techniques to practice:

  • Replace Absolutes: Words like "always," "never," and "need to" can shut down conversations. Try softer phrases like "often," "sometimes," and "could consider."
  • Ask, Don't Assume: "What are your biggest pain points right now?" is far more powerful than, "I bet you're struggling with..."
  • The "Feel, Felt, Found: “Formula is fantastic for addressing objections with empathy. "I understand how you feel. Others felt the same way, but they found that..." It validates the concern while offering a solution path.
  • Mirror Their Pace: Match their cadence if a prospect speaks slowly and thoughtfully. If they're high-energy, subtly pick up your tempo. Mirroring builds rapport on a subconscious level.

 

Is finesse a skill you're actively refining in your sales career? If not, it's time to start! 

Schedule a free consultation with us today to see how our training and coaching can help you unlock the power of finesse, boost your close rates, and build a reputation as the kind of salesperson people are excited to work with again and again. John of Griffin Hill is waiting to guide you to success. Reserve your free session now and start your journey to excellence.